“Momism” (Proverbs 31:30)

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A mother who honors God will be a good mother. This is true because her desire is to be the kind of parent He wants her to be. Instead of bringing up children just to fulfill her own needs, she wants to raise them for the glory of God.

This approach to motherhood stands in striking contrast to what’s happening in a lot of homes today. Hans Sebald, a University of Arizona sociologist, has written a book entitled Momism: The Silent Disease of America. He points out that many mothers are raising overly dependent, neurotic sons and daughters. This is most common among couples who are caught up in the rat race of middle-class values. Dad sells his time and soul to the company to keep up with the Joneses. Mom in turn is left alone and must bear the burden of caring for the family. Since she has so few outlets for fulfillment, she unconsciously uses her own youngsters to gain honor and influence in the neighborhood. She strives to bring up model children solely for the purpose of gaining the reputation of being a model mother. Their performance becomes all-important, so she gives her love or withdraws it, depending on the behavior of the child.

How thankful we should be for Christian mothers who are not afflicted the “momism” syndrome, but who fear the Lord and find their ultimate fulfillment in Him. True, they’re not perfect, but they are very special people, for they love God and want their children to love Him. I know what that means, because I am privileged to have a mother who trained me for His sake. – Martin R. De Haan II

O give us homes with godly mothers, mothers,

Who always place their hope and trust in Him;

Whose tender patience turmoil never bothers,

Whose calm and courage trouble cannot dim. – Hart

The chain of a mother’s prayers can link her child to God.

  • May 12, 1985, Our Daily Bread